happy weekend

good morning pumpkins... how are you today? i'm feeling fine. My boss is out of town today, that means no yelling, no stress, no hurry. i'll just enjoy the peace of the coming hours, like a melody..

i wish you a very exciting weekend.. i'm going to spend it with family and friends. Yesterday i left the gym late at night, we were talking about what we can do to keep it open. The municipality authorities want to close it down. But we fight, for the first time i think we will win.. I promise i'll never give up hope.. 

Priority 1: Learn...so much to study.. the clock is ticking... 

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love ya.. sooo much. xoxo

why aren't we searching for love?

hello pumpkins, how was your weekend? i had a marvellous time. i went out, i even went clubbing, i can't remember when was the last time i went dancing.. well i enjoyed it. i couldn't manage to go swimming. so i didn't wear my new swimming suit. i'll do it perhaps next weekend. but i visited friends, went out, did some shopping, a huge handbag and 2 dresses, pink and blue. i had no teaching this weekend so i rested i tried to sleep in the afternoon to get the extra rest i needed. i was out till late at night. Today i was off work so i relaxed but tomorrow is a tough and very busy day at the office. My busy daily schedule as always... but i feel complete. i have to study for the faculty too and that goes too slow. i need to speed up. my other activities steal much time.. i have to reschedule..

When was at the club on Saturday night, at a beach club in fact i was looking around and watched many companies of people, girl companies, guy companies, friends, who were enjoying themselves alone. and i asked myself? where has gone love? Flirt? Companies didn't reach other. They were separate. What are we afraid of? Why don't we make new friends? Why aren't we searching for love? Just think about it?

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Deepak Chopra_The 5 Step Path to a Life of LOve

Deepak Chopra is a  very wise man for me, always leave me thinking about love and life.....

Deepak Chopra, co-founder of the Chopra Foundation and co-author of the new book War of the Worldviews: Science vs. Spirituality, reveals how to create a life founded on the world's most generous and joyful emotion.

Love has arrived at a strange crossroads. It seems very odd to say, "I want to be more loving. Is there a scientist who can help with that?" But in modern life, our notion of love has shifted. More and more we are told—in magazines, learned journals and media reports—that love can be broken down into medical explanations, that it is produced by reactions in the brain, both chemical and electrical. We may wish that love is divine, ideal and life-transforming, the news says, but to be realistic, we should throw out our old, unscientific notions and learn more about what the brain is doing to us.

I strongly oppose such a view of love—in fact, it frightens me. On the spiritual side, there's a completely different and higher view of love, which goes something like this: Love is part of creation, woven into the very fabric of the universe. We love one another because we have tapped into nature at a deeper level. Yes, the brain is responsible for giving love its physical expression, yet ultimately, love comes from the soul.

A catchy phrase from an old pop song said, "Love the one you're with." Although you can journey outside yourself, the person to give your love to (and who, in return, must return that love), in truth, the one you are with every minute of the day, is yourself. The more rewarding way to find it is to go inward to the very source of love. If you do not do this, your love will depend on your mood swings, on how others see you and on the lovable and unlovable traits you see in yourself and others.

As soon as we measure people by what is lovable and unlovable, trouble arises. The unlovable person is labeled odd, an outsider, bad or an enemy. We create unhappiness instead. We practice nonlove, that voice inside that whispers in our ears, "They are different from us." Or, "Fight for what you want and don't quit until you win." Or, "When bad things happen to other people, it's their own fault."

We need to restore love as the key to happiness—a difficult task. That's why we need a spiritual path, so that we can walk away from nonlove and its confusions. Here are five basic steps that can lead you to a new life where everyone, most especially yourself, is worthy of loving and being loved.

Step 1: Believe in Love
When you say, "I love my work," or "I love my partner," you are expressing belief and showing faith in something outside yourself. As good as that is, even better is to have faith in love as part of yourself. When anyone asks me, "How do I find the right one?" I always give the same advice: To find the right one, become the right one. Belief in love is a spiritual kind of belief. It holds that love exists as a universal quality, outside ourselves, that can never be defeated, only covered over. Thus love and non-love are not equals. Love is permanent; non-love is temporary.

Step 2: Don't Limit Love to a Few People and Deny It to Others
It's very common to say: "I love my own children, and I love my neighbor's children. But when it comes to my kids, I love them more." That's perfectly understandable. But there's a spiritual teaching, going back thousands of years, which goes "The world is my family." If love is universal, no one can be left out. To leave others out of your love is the same as inviting them to leave you out too.

Step 3: Make the Search for Love an Inward Search
Often we feel loved and insecure at the same time. The one we love is somebody we invest in emotionally, and emotions, by definition, are changeable. The one you love may turn indifferent or worse. The problem here is a kind of illusion. When you take someone into your heart, it's like filling a hole inside. If that person should spurn and reject you, suddenly the hole reappears as a terrible ache. Yet the hole was always there, and only you can fill it permanently. Ultimately, the inward journey is about finding your own fullness, something that no one else can take away.

Step 4: Seek Other People Who Value Love As Much As You Do
There's an old tradition: If you want to be wise, be in the company of wise people. I'd say the same is true about love. If you want to know about any human experience, seek out those who have walked the path of that experience. In our society, we are embarrassed to talk personally about truth, compassion, faith and love. This inhibition is part of our insecurity. Think of spirit as a community; it's not a talent you develop like a teenager learning to play the guitar. Perhaps community is too big a word, however. Perhaps you can start by finding one person who is wise in the ways of love, who knows what it means to live at a deeper level. That's a wonderful step in the right direction.

Step 5: Believe in Love As a Powerful Force
The first four steps depend on this one, believing that love has its own power. This is a power to transform. It's a power that cuts through doubt, suspicion, distrust and even hatred. Unless love has its own power, there are too many reasons to act from nonlove. We see all around us people who madly pursue pleasure or money or status because they don't trust in love. Without such trust that love can make a difference, of course you will pursue surrogates. Pleasure, money and status are compensations when love is absent or too weak to transform your life. No one has to give up on such surrogates, but it makes a huge difference to know that they are nonlove. The power of love is that it dissolves nonlove. That's the kind of power you find on the spiritual path.

None of the steps is automatic. Each takes work and practice. But now, more than ever, it's all important to reinvent the spiritual side of love. The steps may not be easy, but they are not impossible either. You only need to follow them with all your heart.

Read more: http://www.oprah.com/oprahs-lifeclass/Deepak-Chopra-The-5-Step-Path-to-a-Life-of-Love#ixzz1snTsHfbQ

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something weird

hi pumpkins. how are you doing? i had a peaceful weekend, visited my brother who had a name celebration and cleaned the house. i didn't do much because i still feel exhausted of the recent illness i got through. My neighbourhood was in a messy,cheerful and erotic mood because we had an erotica exhibition in the exhibition center one block away. The roads were full of people, traffic and noise. 
I was returning home from teaching the other day (1st day of the exhibition) when a car stopped near me. I thought that he got lost and wanted to ask something. He told me smiling that i was so beautiful, i made such an impression that he wanted to know me. I was caught in the sudden. He was cute, kind (and much younger than me), i couldn't do anything else than smile and deny. He insisted and started asking questions if i'm single. The statement that i'm married and happy with my guy didn't discourage him. He proposed me a wild sex night or a wild sex of five moments. I replied that five moments of wild sex don't offer more than instant pleasure and people need more than that. After that he'll be empty again. He should search of what he completes him. I doubt if he was listening to me. I was thinking : "what am i doing here? why am i still talking? should have i tried the five minutes of wild sex instead? ". The boy wanted sex and i gave him lecture.  I was furious when he said "i had an affair in the past and she was married and 35". I wanted to scream "who told you that all married women of 35 are desperate enough to get in the road and get hooked up with the first kid that come in their way?" and "I'm 37". I was shocked because he was so straight asking me to have sex and we had just met.  I told him that i sensed that he deserved more than instant sex. He started the engine and i left wondering what was all that about. It was definetely a good push of my ego but it left me wonder; What would another woman do? Am i from another planet? To be completely honest he was very handsome and that made me think; what makes such a guy run in the streets for love? Are they alone? or are they sex addicted?? 

tell me what you think. i still believe that the incident was a moment of truth; about my beliefs and reactions.

have a happy week. may life surprise you positively.  

xoxo